I'm Sorry You'll Never Get An Apology
I hope this helps instead.
I’m sorry you’ll never get an apology.
I’m sorry you’re stuck with the task of forgiving someone who can’t own up to how they did you wrong. I’m sorry you have to find compassion for someone who isn’t willing to do the same for you. I’m sorry you have to swallow this pill, turn the other cheek, and find a way to feel okay about it all.
I’m sorry you opened your heart to someone who didn’t deserve it, and I’m sorry you chose to be soft and vulnerable with someone who didn’t deserve it.
This doesn’t mean you should stop being kind and gentle.
Rather, the opposite is true: The world needs more people like you. This one person is just one person. There are eight billion more who need hearts like yours.
I’m sorry you’re left to pick up the pieces while they’re off who knows where doing who knows what without a care in the world.
I’m sorry you let yourself believe someone cared about you just to be left disillusioned and worse for wear. I’m sorry you dedicated so much of your time, energy, and love into someone who was never meant to stay forever. I’m sorry this person doesn’t recognize all the lovely gifts and care you poured into them and led you to believe the value in what you were offering them was anything less than the gold it is.
I’m sorry you’re stuck trying to forgive someone who hasn’t asked for your forgiveness.
I’m sorry that this tasks feel impossible. I’m sorry you feel alone in this. I’m sorry that no one else can see just how much it still weighs on your heart. I’m sorry you never got to hear “I’m sorry.”
I hope you know that your forgiveness changes nothing for them and everything for you.
It’s not your fault you’re left with this pain, but it is your responsibility to resolve it nonetheless. You didn’t ask for this wound, but now that it’s here, I need you to love yourself enough to heal it.
How they treated you says nothing about who you are or the value your soul has. You don’t need them to circle back and tell you how wrong they were, how much better you deserved, or how much they regret doing what they did.
You know what they did.
You don’t need them to validate what you already know.
The simple fact that you know you wouldn’t do to them what they did to you is enough. You didn’t deserve what happened because you never would’ve done that to them. You don’t need any further validation.
It’s time to pick up the pieces and create something new for yourself. This isn’t the end of you; you can’t give up here; this can’t be the end of your story.
You are so much stronger than this painful moment that will inevitably pass. You are capable of so much more than being the victim to a callous, careless jerk. You are so much more than this situation.
The world is so much bigger than this one small drama.
Forgiving them isn’t about them. It’s about you.
You’ve kept this pain tucked away and hidden close to your chest. The longer you refuse to release your grip and let others see it and love you regardless, the longer you keep the wound fresh by scratching off any scabs it attempts to create.
I need you to see that not forgiving them is hurting you.
I need you to love yourself more than this.
It doesn’t make sense to keep hurting your own feelings just because someone once decided they were willing to hurt them first. Without realizing it, you’ve created a comfort zone in this pain.
Is this the life you want for yourself?
I’m sorry you’ll never get an apology from them. I’m sorry you’ll have to give the gift of forgiveness to someone who doesn’t want it. I’m sorry you feel discarded, ignored, and undervalued.
But I need you to realize these feelings aren’t the end of you, and in fact, you are the only one who can put an end to them.
You may never get an apology from them. Can you love yourself enough to forgive them anyways?